Spiritual Journey of an Omnist
Life is an act of worship. How Spirituality is relevant in everyday life.
Thursday, March 7, 2024
Devils and Demons We're Fighting: A Tale of Two Wolves
Monday, October 24, 2022
The Golden Rule - How should we act towards Others
Wednesday, June 15, 2022
The Difficulty of a True Spiritual Life
If you think you’re so enlightened, go live with your family for two weeks. - Ram DassThere seems to be an unconscious misconception that the spiritual life is limited to certain days of the week, perhaps some festivals, or certain specific practices such as meditation, Scripture reading or prayer. I do think that this might be more under the older generations and that the younger generations are increasingly changing their views, with many identifying as Spiritual but not Religious (SBNR). Then again it might just be a bias on my side as the change in views increased rapidly at least since the 1960’s (Ram Dass, who I quote above and who died in late 2019, grew up Jewish but became a Hindu around 1967). Of course, changing one’s views does not necessarily means that one suddenly lives a more spiritual life. What does it mean to live a spiritual life and why do I say this is difficult? The quote by Ram Dass is one of my favourites and one I always try to keep in mind. That is because the spiritual life might start with going to church on a Sunday or mosque on a Friday or personal meditation and prayer rituals in the morning, but after that the question becomes this – If those moments do not become clear in your public life, while you driving, spending time with family or doing your job, then what was it for? The spiritual life becomes difficult the moment you move out of your sacred space and into contact with other human beings (or any other beings for that matter). It is easier to stand with your eyes closed and hands in the air on a Sunday morning than it is to keep calm with traffic on the way home. We don’t even have to take it that far – most of us start gossiping or judging the moment we set foot out of Church (perhaps even while worshipping). It is easy to sit in front of your Scriptures and light a candle or incense stick and feel all tranquil, of course that is if you could leave the warmth of your bed in time, then one gets to work, and you must remember to smile at the annoying co-worker. A true spiritual life will be an important part of every decision you make, of every action taken, of every word said. It might not be possible to absolutely control your thoughts but what your reaction with your thoughts is should tell you something – do you stop it, or do you entertain it? “If your religion does not change you then you should change your religion,” said Elbert Hubbard. Rabbi Hillel is reported to have said that the Golden Rule (Do not do unto others that which you would not like them to do unto you) is the whole spiritual practice and that the rest of what we read and believe is only commentary on this rule. In other words, if you pray or do any kind of spiritual practice and you believe that what you believe is the only truth, but you give in to every desire and let your ego reign supreme with no compassion for most other people, then you have not even begun to live a spiritual life. All this can sound very discouraging, but honestly, I am trying to encourage you to pull up your socks and get serious, whatever your chosen path might be. That does not mean there can be no fun in life, but it does mean that we pay attention to how we are having fun. It is going to be difficult; you are going to fail on an almost daily basis. At the same time the alternative is to live an unexamined life and that, said Socrates, is not a life worth living. Fulfilment comes when we are constantly working on ourselves. “I want happiness” said someone to a Buddhist monk, “Take away ‘I’ as that is the ego, take away ‘want’ as that is desire and what is left is ‘happiness’”, answered the monk. Now that we are parents, my wife regularly says, “You know what, we should just forgive our parents”. There was a time that I was angry with my dad on an almost daily basis, and it did not help that he was a pastor. Then I became a dad, never mind the fact that I became a husband, and I realised that I must always watch myself. The moment I cannot answer in a soft manner, I cause hurt. The moment I react in an irritable manner, I cause hurt. Sitting down to meditate or pray after that makes me feel ashamed, so much so that I sometimes feel that perhaps it is better to just give up. I know, however, that the moment I stop working on myself I will do even worse. I hope and pray that, if I stay on living a true spiritual life, as difficult as it may be, one day my children will be able to forgive me. Rabbi Hillel ends his declaration on the Golden Rule with these words: “Now go study”. Whatever religion, spiritual part, or philosophy you follow – study hard and then act in compassion. I encourage you. May the One God, with many Names and many Manifestations, bless you.
Monday, October 4, 2021
Without Consent
Monday, February 15, 2021
Choosing Peace Against Racism
“I was once asked why I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there.” (Mother Teresa)
There is nothing that makes me angrier than racism in all its
forms and any bigotry that goes with it, but does fighting against it help in
any way? Initially, I wanted to name this post “Choosing the Battle Against
Racism”, but then I remembered the above quote by Mother Teresa, and I realised
that, in all honesty, I am tired of fighting. So, I prefer to use the word
‘peace’ or the term ‘to stand up’. ‘Peace’, in this instance, mean knowing when
to speak and, when that happens, to always remain calm despite the burning
anger. One way of standing up is what I am doing now – to write about my
feelings about racism, sharing it with you, and to hope that I will make some
form of positive impact wherever this post goes.
I cannot remember exactly how my thoughts around the subject
developed, but I remember speaking out against it even as a child, the more my
awareness of it grew. Through the years I had many conversations with both racists
and non-racists (including those who honestly believed they were not racist
even though they talked in a derogatory way about people who do not look or
think like they do), as well as with both blacks and whites. As a white
Afrikaans speaking male, I also experienced racism, not only from black racists
against me, but also from whites who believe that I agreed with them simply
because I looked like them.
In all these conversations I never once heard an argument in
defence of racism that made any logical sense at all (so much so that I must
think carefully exactly what to say here and what to leave out, otherwise this
post will be way too long). I have heard white people telling me that most
blacks are criminals because most prisoners are black, forgetting that not only
are there more blacks in the country than whites but also things like poverty,
and the fact that it is many times whites who are the leaders behind big crime
syndicates. I have heard black people telling me that they hate all whites for
what they did to people in the Apartheid years, to which I answer that I agree
that what happened in the past was not right and I do judge my ancestors for
their part in it, but I do not understand why I am being hated because I was
not there.
Racism come in many subtle and open forms but the most ironic are
those people who try to use the Bible to justify their racism. One of the worst
I ever heard, is that the Bible says black people cannot be human as they do
not have a crown on their heads (afr. kroontjie). I still have a standing
and open invitation to anyone who can even point out the verse in the Bible
that says this and believe me, I have searched for it. Others argue that God
told the Israelites not to mix with other nations and that means that interracial
marriages are sinful. Careful reading of this part, however, reveals that it
was not that God had a problem with the mixing but with the fact that other
nations did not believe in God. My own arguments include that there is a big
possibility that Moses, one of the greatest biblical figures, had a black wife
and that the woman spoken of in the Song of Solomon was a black woman. It is
possible to argue about interpretation for hours, but I do not believe that it
is possible to justify hating any race by referring to the Bible (or any other
Scripture worth the description of Holy).
Now, in South Africa there is a mistaken belief that only whites
can be racist. I do see this racism from them towards blacks on an almost daily
basis. This includes refusing to speak in English to someone who can obviously
not understand Afrikaans, or being arrogant, unfriendly, and uncooperative
because they are not being helped by a white person. I sometimes have an
immense desire to apologise to other races on behalf of those from my own race
while at the same time I take it as a personal insult. However, blacks can also
be racist even though Apartheid was the creation of white people (and before
any white person smiles – this is nothing to celebrate). Being in an
interracial marriage I have been mistaken for a European by my fellow black
South Africans, but this is not the worst – one manager of a restaurant also
called me pale.
Is it so difficult to believe that some Afrikaans men see no
difference in race when it comes to love? Believe me, there are more of us than
you would want to believe, especially the younger generation. Then again, here
is something to remember about the older generation of white males - many of
them were too scared to start a relationship with black women due to the times
they were living in. Stereotyping is as much a form of subtle racism as it is
to be openly racist.
I am not suggesting that we forget (or get over) the crimes of the
past or ignore the ongoing injustices being committed on all levels of society.
I am suggesting that the older people get over their fear of the unknown and get
to know other normal people around them even though they look different (I am
not saying do not be careful, crime is a South African reality, but do not only
watch the black man because it might be your white neighbour who steals from
you. Crime has nothing to do with race). Come on, if my grandparents can do it
then any other older person can do it. For the younger people I suggest this:
stop believing everything that the older generation told you about ‘all white
people’ or about ‘all black people’ and make up your own mind about who can be
trusted and who cannot, again this can never be based on race but only on
character.
South Africa is not the only nation struggling with this. The USA,
with the Black Lives Matter movement, Britain, Germany, Israel, France, India
are all countries (and these are only the ones I read about regularly, it is a
worldwide phenomenon) where there is a daily struggle against racism and other
forms of discrimination. The racial problems, like any other social problems of
the world will not be solved any time soon. However, each of us, and especially
those of us who honestly want to live the spiritual life, can do our small part
in declaring peace, harmony, friendship, mutual respect and understanding. Each
of us can act in small ways by speaking up against the uncle who cracks a
racial joke at a family gathering, or defend a colleague who is being disrespected,
or argue against the unnecessary accusations of racism (the so-called ‘playing
the race card’).
Remember this, God made us all. We are all part of God. God is Light
and in light all the colours are represented.
May the One God, with many Names and many Manifestations, bless
you.
Saturday, January 30, 2021
The Meaning of Love
There are so many ways in which we use the word “love” these days that many of us cannot explain what exactly the meaning of love is. We “love” just about anything – our wives or husbands, our children, the cat or dog, the car and the house, KFC, or McDonalds… and we also say we love God. In all this confusion we also do not know if love is an emotion or something else, but we think we can switch it on and off depending on our current mood.
Growing up there were two things I was taught – ‘love your
neighbour as yourself’ (for those who are reading carefully – the question here
is: what does that even mean?) and ‘God so loved the world that He gave His
only Son’. These two Biblical quotations were separate in my mind – on the one
hand I must love my neighbour somehow and on the other hand God always loves me
no matter what. This separation, I believe, is due to the illusion that we are
separate from each other and from God – because that is what our eyes tells us.
This is not true, because there is also the following thing that is taught – we
must become more like Jesus and Jesus lives in our hearts.
As a child I could not bring these points together and
plainly accepted it, but as an adult it bothered me. In Hinduism it is believed
that God is not separate from us and neither are we separate from each other –
the interconnectedness of all. God is a part of us, or we are a part of God,
and by default we are a part of each other. In Judaism this is called ‘the
Divine Spark in all of us’. If Jesus lives in our hearts, if God is a part of
all beings, then we cannot live as if we are separated from each other – we
need to love each other as if God Himself is standing in front of us.
Loving your neighbour (and to make this clear – neighbour
does not only mean the person next to you but all beings you meet including
enemies, animals, insects and so on) thus means loving your neighbour as God
loves you. And, from a purely Christian point of view, God loves you with
sacrifice. Now we can debate about how cruel it would be if we sacrificed our
children for others and that we do not like this idea of a God killing His own
Son. But to think like that is to miss the point entirely (no really, you
should not sacrifice your children). From where I stand it does not matter
whether the crucifixion happened or not (I am not saying it did not), what
matters is that if you have never loved someone (including your spouse) until
it hurts (not by actually hurting yourself or others but by giving things up
that means a lot to you) then you have not really loved yet.
So now we can return to the question asked earlier – what
does it even mean to love someone as you love yourself? In the simplest terms,
it means that if you love to eat a big healthy meal (or even unhealthy for that
matter) you would not give the homeless man in the street just dry bread and
milk. Because, if you were that homeless person, even if you would be glad to
receive the dry bread and milk, you would wish that someone would give you a
big healthy meal. (Again, it is beside the point whether the homeless person
should work or not – I will write about this in a later blog).
If you think that most of this is obvious then the question
is – why do more of us, especially those of us who see ourselves as spiritual
or religious, not do this? The answer is that it hurts, we do not like to make
such sacrifices and we do not believe that we are a part of God. Before any
fingers points at me – yes, I have tried it many times; I sort of got it right
once or twice, I failed multiple times. Continuous effort is the key. This is
one of many reasons why I write about it – to spread awareness and to encourage
not only others but also myself.
Love does not stop when you said you will pray for the other
person or when you gave the bare minimum, but I am also not saying that you
must give so much that you do not have anything left. That is also not loving
yourself, never mind the other. This is another point that needs to be
addressed. While reading a book on the essence of Buddhism the author made an
interesting point saying that it is all good and well that we should love our
neighbour as ourselves, but what if the person does not love himself? What if
the person is depressed? It will then mean that the depressed person, loving
the other as he “loves” himself, will wish depression on that person. He then
suggests compassion and loving-kindness as better terms. I both agree and
disagree with the author to a certain extent.
A depressed person, or one that hates him- or herself,
cannot love anyone, never mind talking about having compassion. At the same
time, that is exactly what such persons wish on others. If we understand what it
means to really love each other, including other beings, then it might not
matter which term we prefer. However, the word “love” does bring up the idea of
a deep emotional attachment. In this sense the word “compassion” is better as
we can then have sympathy and empathy as well as sacrificing without getting
attached to the person or being, which might lead to more suffering than
anything else. Yet, that will still be a misunderstanding of what it means to
really love, and this is where there needs to be a mind change.
Contrary to popular belief, love is not an emotion. Love is
rather something we do; in other words, it is a verb. True love is to give or
to do something without the expectation of return. Love is as simple as giving
a glass of water to whoever asks for it without getting irritated, to give R2
to the person begging at the stop street. Or it is to exceed that person’s
expectations and give him a big meal and R200. Love is an effort to reduce the
suffering we cause animals and nature by our selfish ways by living more
consciously. It is both within our means and outside our comfort zones.
May the One God with many Names and many Manifestations, bless you.
Saturday, December 19, 2020
Transformation Process from Omnivore to Vegan: The Personal Touch
I thought that Part Two in this series would be the last part, but my sisters reminded me that I have left out a particularly important component: the personal touch. How far am I in this journey from being an Omnivore to becoming a Vegan? One of my friends described themselves as “flexitarian” saying that they prefer going vegan or vegetarian but at the moment it is still difficult. I think this accurately describe my feet-in-two-worlds situation – I tip my hat at anyone who wakes up one day and decide their done with meat and animal products (or any other addiction for that matter).
So, my personal
experience is that it is not easy, but looking back I can see that there was
progress. Back when I were still staying in my hometown, I became convinced that
vegetarian would be the way to go and I regularly discussed it with some
friends. I was made fun of, which is fine by me, but unfortunately that meant
no support at all. I knew no vegetarians or vegans personally so I could not
ask for advice (I acknowledge that I did not think of Google).
As I read
more about famous vegetarians – the likes of Mahatma Gandhi and Leo Tolstoy – I
realized that I had to work in that direction, but I found myself failing time and
again. I did, however, succeeded in becoming more of an environmentalist by refusing
to kill insects unless it was necessary. I remember writing a small piece about
how easy it is to love cats and dogs, but to feel nothing when it came to spiders
and crickets (or feeling fear for these little creatures in some cases). My mom
once joked, saying to one of her friends, “this one is so green…”.
Surprisingly,
getting married helped a lot. I am enormously proud to brag that I have a
supportive and understanding wife even though she finds some of my ideas a
little over the top. When I told her that it has been a goal of mine to become
at least vegetarian, if not full vegan, she immediately started to encourage me;
and sometimes even admonished me if my actions contradicts my words. Two things
she greatly helped me with was introducing the meatless Mondays and encouraging
me to push the October Vegetarian month as far as possible (by the way –
January is called Veganuary by vegans). Although my reasons are mostly
spiritual in nature, my wife focus’ more on the health reasons and thus we try
to combine my meatless times with more healthy eating in general. All this even
though my wife is not a vegetarian and are not planning on becoming one.
In the meantime,
I have made a list of different meats that I want to give up totally as time go
by. This came about when I realized that my efforts to give up meat and other animal
products all at once did not pay off and that perhaps a more gradual approach
would work better. My list focus on meat specifically and are by no means
scientific. In fact, I am still a long way from understanding the codes on the
back of packages which are supposed to tell you if animal products were used
(did you know, for instance, that animal products are used in soap and many
cosmetics or in those delicious Jelly Babies?). To give myself time to get used
to not eating a particular meat that I crossed of the list, I give up another
form of meat every six months (perhaps I should shorten this time frame, but
for now this is it). Thus, so far, I have given up eating fat, lamb, biltong
(including droëwors, salami and so on) and patties
(which means I gave up burgers).
Another
surprising source of encouragement is my colleagues. Like any other group of
South Africans, we are always on the lookout for a reason to have a small party
where we all bring something to eat together before we begin with the day’s
work. I must mention here that I am allergic for dairy products (for those who
do not know – this is also an animal product) and you should think that this
fact makes it easier for me to give it up, but alas I crave cheese a lot (and
did I mention pizza?). Now, my colleagues know of my struggles to give up meat
and diary products and one of them is a wonderful cook (he really should have
been a chef and we are always full of praise for the dish he surprises us
with). Before any event we planned he and my other colleagues always come to me
to make sure which meat it is I do not eat and when they cook or bake something
requiring dairy products, they make sure to use goat cheese for which I am not allergic (but which I will also eventually have to
give up as I go full vegan). After this they always make sure not to bring
those items – it is a joy to work with such colleagues.
By now I
have also read more on what exactly goes into the production of meat and I am horrified.
I am now appalled when I hear seemingly normal people (most of us in other words) talking with some
enthusiasm about how animals are slaughtered for their meat, when the same
person would not talk so casually if the same thing were done to a human. One
person acknowledges that if she sees a chicken walk over the lawn and the host
inform her that this will be the food for dinner, she become vegetarian for
that night. Somehow, unfortunately, this does not translate to the packages we
buy in the supermarket and I acknowledge I am as guilty. My choices are thus
still very much influenced by this fallacy in my mind; when I must choose
between an apple and a Vienna sausage then I will most probably find myself
with a pack of viennas on the couch in front of the television.
Nowadays
there is a lot of alternative products on the market. For instance, if you do
not want to eat meat there is the option to buy tofu or soya. There are also
processed foods which are made to look and taste like the real counterpart.
Thus, you get vegan cheese, vegan patties, vegan sausages and even vegan
biltong. These products can help a prospective vegan to ease the journey a bit
as they look and taste more or less like the real deal (for those who grew up
vegan or vegetarian – I would suggest you stay away from it). With this last
warning in mind there are two unfortunate facts about these products. Firstly,
they are quite expensive and thus where giving up meat may help your finances,
going over to meat-like products does not. Secondly, it is highly processed
foods which means it is also highly unhealthy (a real vegan or vegetarian diet
is generally good healthy food).
This is
then my difficulties and honest struggles as well as my proud little progress
in the journey to become a more conscious consumer of food. It really is all
about being aware of what we do to animals, the planet, other humans and
ourselves. At the same time, it is an acknowledgement that human nature is frail,
and that small steps and little seed may accumulate to bigger things with time.
Thus, I hope that what I wrote here will serve as a planted seed that will bear
fruit with time or serve as encouragement to not give up. Even if this was just
an interesting read (or you vehemently disagree with everything I said or the
way I go about my journey), I still hope that it will serve as food for
thought.
May the One
God with many Names and many Manifestations bless you