Life is an act of worship. How Spirituality is relevant in everyday life.
Monday, October 24, 2022
The Golden Rule - How should we act towards Others
Saturday, January 30, 2021
The Meaning of Love
There are so many ways in which we use the word “love” these days that many of us cannot explain what exactly the meaning of love is. We “love” just about anything – our wives or husbands, our children, the cat or dog, the car and the house, KFC, or McDonalds… and we also say we love God. In all this confusion we also do not know if love is an emotion or something else, but we think we can switch it on and off depending on our current mood.
Growing up there were two things I was taught – ‘love your
neighbour as yourself’ (for those who are reading carefully – the question here
is: what does that even mean?) and ‘God so loved the world that He gave His
only Son’. These two Biblical quotations were separate in my mind – on the one
hand I must love my neighbour somehow and on the other hand God always loves me
no matter what. This separation, I believe, is due to the illusion that we are
separate from each other and from God – because that is what our eyes tells us.
This is not true, because there is also the following thing that is taught – we
must become more like Jesus and Jesus lives in our hearts.
As a child I could not bring these points together and
plainly accepted it, but as an adult it bothered me. In Hinduism it is believed
that God is not separate from us and neither are we separate from each other –
the interconnectedness of all. God is a part of us, or we are a part of God,
and by default we are a part of each other. In Judaism this is called ‘the
Divine Spark in all of us’. If Jesus lives in our hearts, if God is a part of
all beings, then we cannot live as if we are separated from each other – we
need to love each other as if God Himself is standing in front of us.
Loving your neighbour (and to make this clear – neighbour
does not only mean the person next to you but all beings you meet including
enemies, animals, insects and so on) thus means loving your neighbour as God
loves you. And, from a purely Christian point of view, God loves you with
sacrifice. Now we can debate about how cruel it would be if we sacrificed our
children for others and that we do not like this idea of a God killing His own
Son. But to think like that is to miss the point entirely (no really, you
should not sacrifice your children). From where I stand it does not matter
whether the crucifixion happened or not (I am not saying it did not), what
matters is that if you have never loved someone (including your spouse) until
it hurts (not by actually hurting yourself or others but by giving things up
that means a lot to you) then you have not really loved yet.
So now we can return to the question asked earlier – what
does it even mean to love someone as you love yourself? In the simplest terms,
it means that if you love to eat a big healthy meal (or even unhealthy for that
matter) you would not give the homeless man in the street just dry bread and
milk. Because, if you were that homeless person, even if you would be glad to
receive the dry bread and milk, you would wish that someone would give you a
big healthy meal. (Again, it is beside the point whether the homeless person
should work or not – I will write about this in a later blog).
If you think that most of this is obvious then the question
is – why do more of us, especially those of us who see ourselves as spiritual
or religious, not do this? The answer is that it hurts, we do not like to make
such sacrifices and we do not believe that we are a part of God. Before any
fingers points at me – yes, I have tried it many times; I sort of got it right
once or twice, I failed multiple times. Continuous effort is the key. This is
one of many reasons why I write about it – to spread awareness and to encourage
not only others but also myself.
Love does not stop when you said you will pray for the other
person or when you gave the bare minimum, but I am also not saying that you
must give so much that you do not have anything left. That is also not loving
yourself, never mind the other. This is another point that needs to be
addressed. While reading a book on the essence of Buddhism the author made an
interesting point saying that it is all good and well that we should love our
neighbour as ourselves, but what if the person does not love himself? What if
the person is depressed? It will then mean that the depressed person, loving
the other as he “loves” himself, will wish depression on that person. He then
suggests compassion and loving-kindness as better terms. I both agree and
disagree with the author to a certain extent.
A depressed person, or one that hates him- or herself,
cannot love anyone, never mind talking about having compassion. At the same
time, that is exactly what such persons wish on others. If we understand what it
means to really love each other, including other beings, then it might not
matter which term we prefer. However, the word “love” does bring up the idea of
a deep emotional attachment. In this sense the word “compassion” is better as
we can then have sympathy and empathy as well as sacrificing without getting
attached to the person or being, which might lead to more suffering than
anything else. Yet, that will still be a misunderstanding of what it means to
really love, and this is where there needs to be a mind change.
Contrary to popular belief, love is not an emotion. Love is
rather something we do; in other words, it is a verb. True love is to give or
to do something without the expectation of return. Love is as simple as giving
a glass of water to whoever asks for it without getting irritated, to give R2
to the person begging at the stop street. Or it is to exceed that person’s
expectations and give him a big meal and R200. Love is an effort to reduce the
suffering we cause animals and nature by our selfish ways by living more
consciously. It is both within our means and outside our comfort zones.
May the One God with many Names and many Manifestations, bless you.
Sunday, November 1, 2020
We are the Virus: Fear and Ignorance
From March until August 2020 I, along with many other South Africans, have been forced to stay at home due to the lockdown against the COVID19 pandemic. While some of us had by now returned to work many still stay at or work from home. When watching the news, it is clear though that not all people adhere to the lockdown rules, in fact there are some who still do not believe there is a pandemic at all.
I have
returned to work on the 31st of August, as it is not exactly
possible to, as a library assistant, work from home. However, the time I was forced
to stay at home were pleasant – most of all I had the opportunity to witness
the first six months of my newborn baby’s life (a privilege many fathers do not
have). I also had a lot of time, and truly little excuse, to focus on intense
study, meditation and fasting. I know that the experience, for many heartbreaking
reasons, was or are not as pleasant for many others.
As I
contemplated these times we live in, I realize that there is another part of the
pandemic many of us do not see or prefer to ignore. The virus itself, whether
we are responsible for its genesis or not, is plainly what it is – it infects
people and while some survive many dies. As human beings we do not have the
same excuse, to say we do what we do because we are what we are implies that we
do not have the capacity to think or the conscience to realize the consequences
of our actions. The ‘I am only human’ excuse simply does not work.
And yet
this is exactly how many of us conduct our lives – living (existing?) from day
to day without questioning deeply our own motives and actions. My mother, a
very wise woman, told me sadly that, “there are many things with which we live
past each other, things we do not even think to find out… we just live… everyone
in his or her own bubble”. She said this with regard to knowledge of certain
subjects, but I think she will agree with me that it is equally true of
thousands of small daily things over which we never stop to think why it is
that we do it.
This is
what makes us, the human species, the actual virus – a virus which can think
but either prefer not to or prefer using the capability to consciously act in
ways which will cause trouble to all of us on a later stage. Never mind the big
things though, the fact that we are the cause of erosion, global warming,
famine and other cruelties to mention only a few. Individually we make millions
of choices daily which we unconsciously teach our children, and which adds up
to become major problems in the long run.
A few years
ago, I was using the train to go and visit my parents. While waiting for the
arrival of the train I walked around on station observing people, an
interesting pastime. So, at one stage I saw a mother and her small child, I would
guess the boy were about three or four years of age, leaning against a half-empty
dustbin eating some snacks. After eating they walked about three meters to the
railroad track and threw the plastic containers on the track, then walked back
to the half-empty dustbin and continue leaning on it. I was dumbfounded.
We humans seems,
in essence, to be extremely selfish and self-absorbed. Someone once said that
crowds are stupid, but personally I do not think that we fare much better
individually – it is just easier to see the stupidity of the crowds. Some argue
that they cannot do something to, for instance, stop pollution. However,
looking at the actions of these very same people, they pollute with the same
argument in mind – how can my own personal polluting cause massive pollution, I
am only one person. In other words, we do not stand up to do something about the
problems facing the world because we feel inferior while at the same time, in our
personal lives, we act so superior that we are the very cause of those
problems.
We refuse
to see it because we are comfortable. There is a South African joke on
politicians in government – a decision are made by some politician which is
then contested in court, the court orders the politician to rectify the problem
within, say, five years’ time… the politician then calculate that by that time
he will not be in the position to correct it anymore and thus he agree to what
the court says without any intention of actually obeying making it, in effect,
someone else’s problem. It is not only politicians that act this way. Many of
us do know what the effects will be if we continue wasting water and
electricity – we complain about load shedding but make no effort to switch of the
light when we exit the room – or continue polluting, but we also know that by
the time those problems hit home we may not be around anymore (you do realize
that load shedding is one example of such a problem? – for all the mistakes
Eskom made and continue to make, we each have our own part in this). Even
closer to our bodies, we know what the consequences will be for our bad eating habits
and lack of exercise but we reckon that by the time it becomes a problem we
would have lived our lives satisfactorily. Then we still act surprised when we
are diagnosed with various types of sicknesses.
On the
other hand, many of us fool ourselves into thinking that it is enough to give
some money to some far off charity organization while we continue to do some of
the very things those organizations are trying to stop. Giving the money is not
the problem, fooling ourselves into thinking that that is the only thing we
need to do is. Then there are also some of us who do give some money to some
organization, even if it is through a backdoor way via playing lottery or
buying at our favorite supermarket, only because we get something in return –
points, the chance to win a competition, or discount on our shopping. It is as
if we must be begged to do the right thing. And thank God we do not have to get
our hands dirty. Then, on another front, there are those who raise awareness
for some or other noble cause. Raising the awareness is not a problem, it is an
exceptionally good thing as it would hopefully force some people to think. The
problem come in when those who join the campaigns do so only to wear certain
clothing, buying a pin or putting cloth around a tree. Again, people must be
begged only to become nominally involved.
What is
needed is some real action. Why not start a campaign yourself, for a chance,
within your own area? Sure, that might be aiming a bit high for a start, but
still there are many things many of us can do, on our own or with someone else,
which will be small steps in the right direction. For starters, and as far as
is financially possible, find out where better choices can be made within your
own life and home. Safe water by showering for a maximum of two minutes, not
only because this will also safe you some money but because it will do wonders
to the environment which you may never even realize. Don’t know where to start?
As a library assistant I can assure you there are many books in the library and
websites on the internet which will give you easy tips. Besides this, there are
also many events, such as Earth Hour where all electrical appliances are
switched of for an hour, which are designed to help you getting into the habit
of a more sustainable lifestyle.
My point
with all this is that we made ourselves the biggest virus the world has ever
seen simply through our fear and ignorance. My own journey into realization of
my place and purpose on earth and in this life started when I began to
seriously contemplate what it is to love, to have compassion, to live in
harmony. Reading the Holy Scriptures of various religious traditions and the
books written about it, helped me conclude that concepts such as love,
compassion and harmony does not stop at ourselves, our family and our friends. It
continues towards those we do not like, those we hate, complete strangers… and
then further to all other beings no matter how small or big or irritating. It
reaches into every single action we perform, every single choice we make or word
we say. Contemplate this long enough and you will know that it was never going
to be easy. But the alternative of living in a vacuum is so much worse.
May the One
God with many Names and many Manifestations, bless you.
Friday, March 20, 2020
Making of an Omnist
At various times I've been called a Satanist, Atheist and Freethinker, all because I confessed not to believe exactly the same things as the person with who I was in conversation (usually a Christian), but more importantly that I do not refer to myself as Christian. Instead of asking me what I do call myself and what I do believe, the person prefer to make assumptions. Why is it easier to make an assumption rather than asking a question? I'm sure there's some sociological answer to that. In reality, however, I self-identify as Omnist.
What this means (for me)
An Omnist is, plainly said, someone who believe that there is truth in all religions or that all religions contains something of the truth and no religion have the absolute Truth. In this sense anyone who see themselves as Omnist will probably believe different than the next Omnist. In my humble opinion I think that is true of most religions - place a hundred Christians from the same denominational tradition next to each other and you will find something that someone believe different despite the fact that the main points may be the same.
I believe that God is One with many Names and many Manifestations. What I mean by this is that God does not only have Judeo-Christian Names (such as JHWH, Jehovah, Elohim, El-Shadai, Jesus, Christ etc) but that all Names in the various religions belongs to God and thus Allah, Nam, Krishna, Ganesh and Buddha are legitimate Names for God. I like to try and find the meaning behind the Name or the reasons for the Name, which then clarify why that Name is appropriate as a Name of God. Ganesh, for instance, is the Remover of obstacles and Buddha means enlightened.
As for the Manifestations, God manifested in various ways in different times and places to different people. So God was in the burning bush with Moses or as Jesus Christ for the Christians, or as Krishna and Shiva in India and so forth. These are not many different gods, but as I see it, One God manifesting in different forms and different ways but for the same purpose. That purpose, I believe, is Love. The reason God manifest differently to different people is because people all over the world have different understandings of what life is. So, for instance, Christians cannot understand why God would manifest as an elephant (they do understand a lion though), Hindus do not understand why God would want to die and then live again (in popular culture that is a zombie after all). Another example is Western Christians having an aversion to the Name Allah (because "it is a Muslim god") but Arabian Christians have no problem calling God by that Name.
I will post about this in coming blogs, but please feel free to ask as many questions as you would like for clarity in the comment area below.
The history
So how did I arrive at this point in my spiritual journey? I grew up in a religiously conservative Afrikaans home. As my dad is a pastor, I practically grew up in the church, specifically the Pentecostal tradition. As a big bookworm I was always reading and at one time my dad told me that I should not forget to read the Bible. I end up reading the Bible, from beginning to end, quite a few times. All this reading also gave me a love for thinking and putting ideas together.
When I was in high school I wanted to become a missionary in order to save the "heathen" from the "demons they worshiped". This idea was greatly encouraged in my family, but it also lead to the idea that I should know something about these religions. At first I read books about other religions written by Christians but, much later, I would realise that this is biased and I started to read books about other religions written by those belonging to those faiths.
In the meantime, as a normal teenager, I started seeing differences in what Christians say and what they do. My relationship with my dad was not always good and I acknowledge that the anger I felt send me in different directions. At one stage I was angry with God because of my dad, but would soon realise that people, myself included, make many mistakes. Forgiveness, I read, is setting someone else free just to realise that you yourself were the prisoner. It did help me, however, to see things in a different light. With different perspectives I were able to see other religions in the light they see it and also to look at Christianity from the point of view of non-Christians. Today I can do this without anger or bitterness at anyone.
After school I wanted to study Religions (UNISA offers a course called Religious Studies, many confuse this with Theology). My dad suggested I first study Theology. As I were still very much Christian and very conservative (not to mention bigoted) and because I saw Theology, which is the study of God from Christian point of view, as another aspect of religion - I agreed. Studying Theology made me think even more that there is something wrong with the whole "there is only one way" - "turn or burn" concept. I did later study Religious Studies and plan to take these studies further somewhere in the future.
My search led me from conservative Christianity to a more liberal form, then on to deism, Buddhism, Hinduism, the Baha'i Faith and Unitarian Universalism. After a while I realised that there is no one religion with which I am able to agree with completely. I continued to read widely and even started to collect the Holy Scriptures of various religions. While reading I was always praying and thinking and while doing that I decided at each new point what I believe and what I disagree with. In reading and studying religions I came upon such terms as syncretism, eclecticism and universalism as well as the concept of the perennial philosophy. Each of these describe a different form of comparison or similarities or mixing of religions.
At last I came upon the term Omnism and in that found the term with which I am most comfortable to identify and within which I continue to develop my thinking. With this term I also grow spiritually every day. Spirituality, how we get closer to God, is a choice each of us have to make daily. As with everything in the world there is things that work for one person but not at all for another. Therefor it is not wrong to stay within one religion, you can even be an Omnist while only practicing one religion. Those who say they are more spiritual than religious like to say - "Religion is following the ideas of others, spirituality is experiencing for yourself".
Omnism is not a religion as such but more a believe system. One or other spiritual leader, I forgot who, said: "If you are a Christian, be the best Christian you can be. If you are Muslim, be the best Muslim you can be. If you are Hindu, be the best Hindu you can be". For me that is to grow spiritually as much as I can, to practice as regularly as I can, to accept that my views are not the only right views and may well be wrong and to always live the love of God towards all beings.